Hey guys!

Whether you work or go to school, I hope your week has gotten off to a good start. I found a good blog post over at PlanJam.com that gives a brief overview of what many women consider turnoffs. There are some things that are left out of the post that I’ll expand on in the future. However until then, read the post by clicking here.

Have you ever been hanging out with your girlfriend at a party, turn your back for a minute, then notice that some guy is talking or flirting with her? I’ve been in that situation, along with many other men. There are only two types of men; those that have had this happen to them and those that haven’t yet.

So there you are. You watching some guy flirt with your girl. What do you do? I’m about to tell you.

First, remain calm
The last thing you want is to look insecure, nervous, jealous or angry. Showing these emotions will make you look insecure – read unattractive. You don’t want your girl thinking that she’s dating an insecure pansy or someone in need of anger management. Remember, you might feel these emotions, just don’t show it. Remain calm and act cool like it doesn’t bother you at all.

Walk up to your girl and the guy
Casually walk up to your girl. The keyword is casually. You don’t want to run or timidly walk over to her. Walk as you normally would walk if you were at the mall.

Begin a short conversation
Once you’re by your girl, continue acting casual. For the first few seconds only look at your girl, don’t even acknowledge that the guy is there, smile at her and ask if she’s having fun. Once she answers, look at the guy and be sure to smile. Introduce yourself to him by saying something like, “Oh hey, I’m so-and-so,” and shake his hand. Next look at your girl and apologize for interrupting by saying, “Oh, I’m sorry. Am I interrupting something?” Make sure you sound sincere. Nine times out of ten, the answer will be no. She might say something like, “No but so-and-so (the guy that’s talking to your girl) was telling me about…”

Leave the conversation and walk away with your girl
Now here is the part where you leave gracefully with your girl. Once you get a response to your question, “Am I interrupting something,” it’s time to make your move. That move should be to end the other guy’s conversation. To do this, you need to say something to the effect of, “Oh, OK. Hey babe, I want to introduce you someone.” Then look at the guy and say, “Hey man, it was great meeting you.” Shake his hand one more time, hold your girl’s hand and leave.

Again the key to this is to remain calm and act casual. Now I know that the situation may not go as smoothly as my example. What if the guy is a real jerk and is overtly flirting with her right in front of you? What if your girl says she doesn’t want to leave with you?

These are good questions and I have my answers to them that I’ll post at a later date. Right now I would like my readers to weigh in on the subject. What would you do in any of the above situations?