In the immortal words of the band Queen, “another one bites the dust.”

On VH1’s The Pickup Artist, Spoon (that’s his picture on the left) quit the contest. If you haven’t been watching the show, start now! It’s full of great advice about how to approach girls. But I digress.

Did you catch what I said? He didn’t get voted off, he quit. He became so scared about approaching and talking to girls, he walked away from a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Interestingly, the episode ends with Spoon saying that he has become more courageous and he feels like a changed man. Sadly, he’s lying to himself.

But we’ve all been guilty of that same thing. We’ve all been so scared that we want to cry but also punch something at the same time. Spoon could have overcome his fear; he just didn’t have the strength to do it. Correction, he had the strength. He just didn’t believe he had it.

But you do have the strength. What I want you to take away from this post is that you should never give up; never let the fear overcome you. The next time you see a girl you want to talk to, in the mall, at school, wherever, tell yourself that you refuse to succumb to fear. Go up to the girl and start a conversation.

You can do it!