Hi, I am having a huge problem!. I go to a Physical Fitness place and one of the girls who works at the front desk I am very attracted to. Other than the Hi , how are you?, bye we don’t speak its more of a courtesy thing.

I don’t even know her name. What is it I can do?

Answer

Your right, that is a huge problem. A lot of guys like the girl at the front desk of a gym - apparently they’re all gorgeous!

The thing to remember here is that she probably get hit on all the time by other men who are members of the gym. This could mean she is a more difficult target.

Here’s what I would do. You said you don’t know her name. The next time you go to the front desk to check in, say something like “You know this is a little embarrassing. I’ve been coming here a while now & I don’t even know your name.” She should then introduce herself. Bam - 1st problem solved.

Here are some things to remember if you’re going to do this: Make sure she isn’t busy talking to other people or there’s a line of members waiting to check in. After the introduction, make whatever conversation you have brief - only about 1 minute. Keep the conversations short during the first few you have. What you’re doing is building up familiarity. Once the both of you know each other through these short conversations, you can graduate up to a longer one.

As far as holding a conversation, remember some universal truths. People typically like to talk about themselves. Don’t bring up politics or religion (during the first conversations), they can cause arguments. Don’t ask anything personal (do you have a boyfriend?, etc.).

I hope this helps! Good luck!

1. Make her wait for ages… when the dates are planned by her and, even worse when they are planned by you.
2. Do not ever use a deodorant when you’re around her. Make it a point to munch on onions before you meet her.
3. Attend as many calls as you can when she’s spending time with you… it helps if the one calling is you’re ex-girlfriend and it’s even better if it’s your ’supposedly’ intimate boyfriend.
4. Be as GAY as you can!
5. Make sure you invite her best friend every time you go out with her, and hit on her friend as shamelessly as you can. The drool-pot is a sure winner!
6. Dress as horrendously as you possible can. Colour combinations are a strict NO-NO, unless you’re planning on doing a fluorescent orange and bright pink combo. Classic!
7. Gorge yourself on food, hers, yours, her friend’s and make sure food spills out of your mouth every minute or so, during your lunch or dinner dates.
8. BURP! As often and as loudly as you can. Gaseous emanations of other kinds are also sure ways to your ultimate triumph!
9. Make sure she realizes you’re not busy, but pretend to be as busy as you can possibly be when she’s around… she’ll get the hint… or even better, pair it up with being a schedule freak.
10. Pretend you have a serious crotch infection, or a fetish or an obsession for everything down under!

Since Thanksgiving is this week, is it cool to invite a girl over for thanksgiving dinner with the family?

Answer

It really depends. If you’ve known the girl for a while or is she knows your family, then yes, go ahead and invite her.

However, if you have only met the girl, asking her to share Thanksgiving dinner with your family might scare her off.

Keep in mind, she probably has plans with her family too. Don’t get too disappointed if she can’t come over.

Shawn, a new reader

Answer:
You want to make sure to catch her at the most convenient time for her, not yourself - that’s the best time to approach. Don’t try it when she’s in a hurry or in the middle of conversation with others.

You’re probably going to roll your eyes at this but the best way to approach her is to be yourself. Yeah, I know, you’ve heard that before. Yeah, I know, you might be thinking, “But being myself doesn’t work!”

Trust me, it works!

Just play it cool, by which I mean don’t look nervous. Go up to her and say “Hey, you’re in my chemistry class. I’m Shawn.” She’ll respond, probably by introducing herself. When she does try to keep the conversation going using some of the techniques in the article How to start a conversation.

Good luck man!

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Knowing when to kiss a girl and when not to kiss a girl can make or break a potential relationship. Many guys just don’t know when they should lean in for that first kiss. We think, “Does she want me to kiss her? Will she be offended if I tried? Will she knee me in the junk if I went for a kiss?” Well there’s one sure giveaway that will tell you that she wants you to kiss her. I call it the “look.”

The look is usually brief, subtle, and very simple. She simply shifts her eyes from yours and looks at your mouth for a split second then looks back at you. That is a sure sign she wants to kiss you. It’s as simple as that.

When she looks at your mouth she’s giving you an unconscious signal (body language) that she wants to kiss you. Subconsciously, she’s imagining what it’s like to kiss you. So when you’re out on that next date pay close attention to her, especially when you’re saying goodnight, and watch for the look.

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Danielle!

Above is Danielle. She is an 18 year old freshman at Florida State.Danielle likes guys with nice teeth. That should be a good enough reason to get you to floss on a daily basis.

Here is Amber. She is 24 years old and a senior at Cleveland State University.

Amber prides herself on being a tomboy. In fact, she has plans to go to an upcoming truck pull competition. Under normal circumstances that would make her a redneck but I’ve never seen a hot redneck. Therefore she can’t be one, right?

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The next time you find yourself in that “we’re just friends” situation, remember that girls want what they can’t have. So, you shouldn’t always make yourself available for her. While you’re at it, stop paying so much attention to her too.

Here’s an example:
If she calls, answer the phone but cut her off about a minute into the call and say you’ve got plans and have to go. Don’t give her an explanation. Just say you’ve got to go but you’ll call her later and be nice about it. Oh, by later I mean two days later not two hours later.

By giving her less attention you, you make yourself more appealing. Why? Because your attention is a rarity; it’s supply and demand. Gold is worth so much because it’s rare. The same goes for you and your attention.