A question from a reader:
Hi, I am having a huge problem!. I go to a Physical Fitness place and one of the girls who works at the front desk I am very attracted to. Other than the Hi , how are you?, bye we don’t speak its more of a courtesy thing.
I don’t even know her name. What is it I can do?
Answer
Your right, that is a huge problem. A lot of guys like the girl at the front desk of a gym - apparently they’re all gorgeous!
The thing to remember here is that she probably get hit on all the time by other men who are members of the gym. This could mean she is a more difficult target.
Here’s what I would do. You said you don’t know her name. The next time you go to the front desk to check in, say something like “You know this is a little embarrassing. I’ve been coming here a while now & I don’t even know your name.” She should then introduce herself. Bam - 1st problem solved.
Here are some things to remember if you’re going to do this: Make sure she isn’t busy talking to other people or there’s a line of members waiting to check in. After the introduction, make whatever conversation you have brief - only about 1 minute. Keep the conversations short during the first few you have. What you’re doing is building up familiarity. Once the both of you know each other through these short conversations, you can graduate up to a longer one.
As far as holding a conversation, remember some universal truths. People typically like to talk about themselves. Don’t bring up politics or religion (during the first conversations), they can cause arguments. Don’t ask anything personal (do you have a boyfriend?, etc.).
I hope this helps! Good luck!
this is the stupidest thing i have eer read and you should take it off the internet.
thanks for the post , i think there s a better way to do it but anyway thanks for it
@ Matt
Too bad you think it’s stupid; it’s helped quite a few people! But I guess you are entitled to your opinion… even though it’s wrong.
@ Troubled Teen
You should share your thoughts man. My readers and I would love to hear them!
Great advice, great site!
Hi Mike, I found your site only yesterday and already I’m in need of your assistance. I’m 18 and have never realy had a girlfriend. I just met this cute girl a few hours ago and I really like her. She’s a teller at my bank and she looks to be within 1 or 2 years of my age. I have no idea how to reall have much of a conversation with her because there’s literally a glass wall between us.
Please help and thanks for making this site,
-A
@ A
Hi man.
That is a tough one. Here’s my advice but it requires patience.
Go into the bank at least 2 to 3 times a week to make deposits to your account. Every visit to her is a chance to build a friendship with her. Get on a first name basis with her. Ask her how her day is going while she’s working on your transaction. Make small talk of all sorts (pets, hobbies, etc.) Be sure to let her know what you like to. Do this for about a month or two months. After that time you might be able to tell if she really likes you. If so, ask her if she wants to grab some coffee after work.
Good luck!
Thanks for the advice!
To me that really helps building up the foundation…
@ Vikram
Awesome man! I’m glad it helped.
That’s what this website is about man. Helping guys build that foundation to be themselves when talking with girls.
Glad we could help!
Hi, I was at a high school graduation party, because I graduated, lol. At this particular party (I really havn’t gone to any others) I hung out with a girl who i had a class with, and who I had just met a couple of months prior. At this party she seemed to be very interested in me, and we danced a bit, but just hung out the whole night. However, my problem is the fact that I want to see more of this girl, but she really does not seem intersted, what do I do?
P.S It’s been about 1 week since the party
Thanks for the advice Mike but as it turns out there wasn’t any chemistry between her and I. For the moment I don’t have any specific girl in mind but that doesn’t mean that I don’t have any girl troubles and I think you could help.
I should start by telling you a little more about myself. I’m a vegetarian and have been for a while. I think it may be easier for me to date vegetarian girls (not that I’d turn down a cute girl just for being a carnivore.)
A few years ago I was rejected by this girl in my class. Like me, she was also a vegetarian and I really liked her but she just wasn’t attracted to me. It was only after she turned me down that I realized she and I had almost nothing in common other than eating habits. Also in pursuing her I lost my chance with another girl, a cute one who liked me for who I am.
Getting to my point, while I had a bad experience in the past I’m not letting that turn me off of vegetarian women. The only place I can be sure to find vegetarian girls is in a vegetarian restaurant. So my question is, how do I start a conversation with someone in a restaurant?
-A
Sad and lonely - Sounds like you made yourself really available to this girl at this party. I don’t want to beat ya down about mistakes but you can disinterest a woman if she sees that she can have you 200%. If you get my drift. My advice is to A> next time if there is a ‘next’ time socialize with others, if you see someone you know ask her if she would be ok on her own for a minute and and talk with your friends, overall being sociable shows confidence and that is a well known aphrodisiac. B> Show up at parties or places that you know she isn’t going to be at and that hopefully one of her friends will be at. Make sure to talk to who ever you see fit but don’t go too crazy because her friends will tell all. I would normally talk to other women but make sure I’m seen leaving the bar “alone”. This is key.
I would have preferred “A” but it’s too late unless you get another date. The easiest way is to do “B” a couple times and then eventually say hi to one of her friends and ask them how she is doing that you haven’t seen her since Grad and that you would love for them to bring her out some night. (generally works for me but a lot of times it just depends on the person) Also: if “B” doesn’t really work be seen leaving with someone so that she hears that you may have a girlfriend or something along those lines. People always want what they can’t have!
Take care and I wish you best of luck!
Again This is a stupid site and i am a girl : just tell the girl how you feel. Mike or whatever your name is this advise only works on FAKE girls not ones who actually have a future. THIS STUFF IS A WIDE LOAD OF CRAP!!!
Again This is a stupid site and i am a girl : just tell the girl how you feel. Mike or whatever your name is this advise only works on FAKE girls not ones who actually have a future.
Again This is a stupid site : just tell the girl how you feel. Mike or whatever your name is this advise only works on FAKE girls not ones who actually have a future.
This is very dumb advise and I for one would know , being A GIRL AND ALL guys play this crap all the time on me and it never woks on real girls , like me !
OK ok stop a minute and lisen to this.
In order to start relationsheep or just a conwersation open your hearth and say the girl what you are doing hear,and what you want from her and than ask her if shi thinks shi is a right person,remember …right person… that can help with tis issue.Dont forget open your heart to the girl from the first time and tell that you so her and have this kind of fillings, it is so easy a kave man can do it common gies. stop waisting your time life is only one time enjoy it but dont overuse it ok.
god bless you all .
by the way dont forget that if everibody thins alike it means one of us is not thinking.
good luck .
HAHAHAAHAHAHAAH this would never work if sum 1 said tha 2 me id just tell them that the most embaressin thing other than not knwin my name would be what you jst said hahahaha!!!! FREAK!
Hey there people just wanna know what is best place to ask out some one that works at gym not really front desk they all do it. they are more of trainers help people out. we know each others name say hi nearly every day little chit chat but not as much as some other people seems bit quiet. how can i show u iam intrested with out looking like a tool lol when we talk she looks into my eyes. any good ways to make more friendly twords her as well.
Ok, I’m 15 and there is this girl that I have liked for five years. It isnt like she doesnt know I exist but we arent that great of friends(partially because I get embarased when talking to her). But here is the real kink in the plan, she has a boyfriend and they are on and off every week. I have no idea what to do, any advice?