Hey guys!
Whether you work or go to school, I hope your week has gotten off to a good start. I found a good blog post over at PlanJam.com that gives a brief overview of what many women consider turnoffs. There are some things that are left out of the post that I’ll expand on in the future. However until then, read the post by clicking here.
Have you ever been hanging out with your girlfriend at a party, turn your back for a minute, then notice that some guy is talking or flirting with her? I’ve been in that situation, along with many other men. There are only two types of men; those that have had this happen to them and those that haven’t yet.
So there you are. You watching some guy flirt with your girl. What do you do? I’m about to tell you.
First, remain calm
The last thing you want is to look insecure, nervous, jealous or angry. Showing these emotions will make you look insecure – read unattractive. You don’t want your girl thinking that she’s dating an insecure pansy or someone in need of anger management. Remember, you might feel these emotions, just don’t show it. Remain calm and act cool like it doesn’t bother you at all.
Walk up to your girl and the guy
Casually walk up to your girl. The keyword is casually. You don’t want to run or timidly walk over to her. Walk as you normally would walk if you were at the mall.
Begin a short conversation
Once you’re by your girl, continue acting casual. For the first few seconds only look at your girl, don’t even acknowledge that the guy is there, smile at her and ask if she’s having fun. Once she answers, look at the guy and be sure to smile. Introduce yourself to him by saying something like, “Oh hey, I’m so-and-so,” and shake his hand. Next look at your girl and apologize for interrupting by saying, “Oh, I’m sorry. Am I interrupting something?” Make sure you sound sincere. Nine times out of ten, the answer will be no. She might say something like, “No but so-and-so (the guy that’s talking to your girl) was telling me about…”
Leave the conversation and walk away with your girl
Now here is the part where you leave gracefully with your girl. Once you get a response to your question, “Am I interrupting something,” it’s time to make your move. That move should be to end the other guy’s conversation. To do this, you need to say something to the effect of, “Oh, OK. Hey babe, I want to introduce you someone.” Then look at the guy and say, “Hey man, it was great meeting you.” Shake his hand one more time, hold your girl’s hand and leave.
Again the key to this is to remain calm and act casual. Now I know that the situation may not go as smoothly as my example. What if the guy is a real jerk and is overtly flirting with her right in front of you? What if your girl says she doesn’t want to leave with you?
These are good questions and I have my answers to them that I’ll post at a later date. Right now I would like my readers to weigh in on the subject. What would you do in any of the above situations?
In the immortal words of the band Queen, “another one bites the dust.”
On VH1’s The Pickup Artist, Spoon (that’s his picture on the left) quit the contest. If you haven’t been watching the show, start now! It’s full of great advice about how to approach girls. But I digress.
Did you catch what I said? He didn’t get voted off, he quit. He became so scared about approaching and talking to girls, he walked away from a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Interestingly, the episode ends with Spoon saying that he has become more courageous and he feels like a changed man. Sadly, he’s lying to himself.
But we’ve all been guilty of that same thing. We’ve all been so scared that we want to cry but also punch something at the same time. Spoon could have overcome his fear; he just didn’t have the strength to do it. Correction, he had the strength. He just didn’t believe he had it.
But you do have the strength. What I want you to take away from this post is that you should never give up; never let the fear overcome you. The next time you see a girl you want to talk to, in the mall, at school, wherever, tell yourself that you refuse to succumb to fear. Go up to the girl and start a conversation.
You can do it!
The results are in and Clarice wins!
OK, I’m kind of disappointed. Out of all the visitors during the past two days (over a hundred in all), no one voted. Not one person. Pity, I thought it would be fun.
Since no one voted, the winner was decided by the flip of a coin.
Congrats Clarice! (Yes, there is a hint of sarcasm there)
OK guys, it’s time for the first “Battle of the Babes” contest! Here’s how it works:
I’ll post a picture of two different girls and you vote for your favorite by typing in the girl’s name in the comments section below. It’s a simple contest of which girl you think is better looking. I’ll announce the winner on Thursday. Remember, keep your comments clean. Any comments that contain profanity will be deleted and the vote will not be counted. OK, here are the contestants:
Lauren
She’s 21 years old and is from North Carolina.
Clarice
She’s also 21 year but is from New Jersey.
Which one of these lovely ladies will win? Cast your votes in the comments below guys! The winner will be revealed this Thursday!
This is for all you guys out there who don’t think hot chicks play video games. I know that they exist because I’m dating one of them.
It just goes to show you that you can find a babe that loves to play games. I mean if this bad Chuck Norris look-a-like can get one…
I remember it like it happened yesterday. I was 19 and hanging out at the mall with my friend Jason. As we were leaving the Suncoast movie store, I saw her; a beautiful blond girl walking with her friend. I was dumbfounded by her beauty and couldn’t take my eyes off of her. She was the type of girl that makes a guy start imagining what married life would be like. She walked right by me and I didn’t say anything.
Minutes later I was kicking myself because I was to afraid to talk to her. I told myself that if I saw her again before my friend and I left the mall, I would talk to her.
Minutes later, I saw her again. She walked right by me. Again, I said nothing because I was afraid. What was I afraid of? I was afraid she would find me unattractive, afraid she would laugh in my face, afraid of making a fool of myself in front of my friend. My friend and I left the mall and literally for months afterward I kept thinking, “What if?”
That was one of the many reasons I became fed up with my fear and decided to change; to become more courages with girls. You can do it too!
Do you have a similar story? If so, please share it in the comments below.
A recent comment by a new visitor got me thinking about this. As a guy, it’s generally a good rule to let the girl break that personal barrier and initiate the first touch.
If you touch the girl before she is ready, she could not only be turned off by it but she might also think you’re weird or worse, a pervert. So it’s usually best to let her touch you first.
There are exceptions to this that usually come in the form of certain body language from the girl. But that is a topic for another post.
‘Nuff said.
What do you think?
Here’s some first date advice: always, always, always have the date planned out. One of the biggest complaints I hear from girls about bad first dates is that the guy doesn’t have anything planned out.
According to my friend Lindsey, “When a guy picks up a girl for their first date, he should always have a restaurant picked out and an activity planned for after dinner. If he doesn’t have these things already planned, he comes off as the type of guy who can’t take charge. A lot of girls find that unattractive.”
Heed her advice guys. Pick out a good restaurant and a fun activity that’s conducive to conversation - not a movie (unless it’s back at her apartment)! And don’t forget, always have two backup restaurants and activities planned in case she doesn’t like your first choice.